Investigate before condemning. Too often we jump to conclusions without looking deeply into a matter. There are often more than two ways to look at things:

– Stop and ask yourself: What is the REAL cause of this behavior from my teen/child? > Could it be chemical? …genetic? > Could it be a matter of needing my attention or quality time with me?

> Am I interpreting the issue correctly? Am I (not) seeing myself and taking it out on them?

If you must JUMP somewhere, jump into understanding, jump into patience. This means checking YOUR stress level first. Check yourself. Societal pressures, money pressures and ego pressures are driving our stress levels up in an unhealthy way. Make sure your child is not the ‘whipping boy’ for that crap. If you’re doing this, you’re sick, maybe even feeling sick. Your axe is dull. Take a ‘sick day’ and give yourself a home spa day or a real spa day! Soak in some bubbles and meditate for a while. Then smother your child with affection.

Many times issues are not life-threatening and we can let it go. Save Your Breath and your energy for when it REALLY matters and learn to recognize the difference between when it does and doesn’t. Keep your axe sharp. Choose your battles wisely. Eighteen years+ is a VERY long haul!When was the last time you were unfairly judged guilty when you were innocent?