How do we teach respect? It’s largely monkey see, monkey do. I know that as parents we are on automatic when it comes to respecting our children…we automatically open the door for them, …we serve them meals …clean up after them, etc. The key here though is to consistently give voice to what you’re doing once the child becomes 3+ years old. Of course, you will not do it always, just enough as is age appropriate and to reinforce a behavior or thought process.

You could say something like “You see what I did right there? I opened the door for you. This is a courtesy we show each other to be considerate, to show kind regard for the feelings and convenience of others. Now you open the door for me. That’s right. Thank You (express gratitude, another courtesy). What other ways can we show courtesy and respect to others?” Then have a discussion if that is the logical follow through.

The idea is to create a habit for yourself in training them as much as it is to have them trained. You may find your own self being more respectful of others and consequently, happier. Isn’t happier what it’s all about?