If you find yourself co-parenting with someone who is a ‘big kid’ themselves then I feel for you. You’ve got a rough row to hoe. Make sure your meditation and stress relief breaks are frequent and deep.

The main thing to remember about that is the burden falls doubly on you to make sure the kids get the essentials for success in their adult life and that it IS important to have that person there being who they are. Children are very resilient and they DO have an internal wisdom.

If they’re hearing from the ‘big kid’ (also known as parent) AND from you (the voice of wisdom), they’ll be able to perceive the truth and will ultimately select the guidance that will help them the best in their lives. It make take them a while but I think the core thing to internalize for yourself is ‘it’s OK’. Everything will be alright. It’s more important for the goofy parent to be there than not be there, considering the alternatives.

I’m not talking about putting up with abuse here. That’s not healthy for anyone involved or exposed to it. Just want to point out that you made the baby with them, so handle it.

What do you think about this?