Flip the script on yourself! Know yourself. Know why you do what you do. Know that you are the perfect parent if you are doing what it takes to repair YOUR broken heart and emotions in a timely manner.

This may sound funny but if you were to do this before you have children, the chances are very good that you will attract the sort of child(ren) that are easier for you to manage. This can happen or/and you will be substantially better at managing difficult child(ren). You will be more patient and even in your dealing with them. It will be easier on you and to you to inspire them to their greatness.

The quality of your attention is the quality of your parenting results. Listen with your whole body as often as you can. Things have a tendency to get hectic. If one has a lot of background noise and emotion going on in ones’ own head and heart, one will miss a lot of what is said and totally miss important cues to what’s really going on in their child’s mind and heart.

It is my recommendation that we take our own inventory: Were both of our parents in the home? Was their marriage a happy and loving one? Was your home life as a child happy? Did you feel extremely, unconditionally loved? How are your manners? Did you receive instructive, effective discipline without it being abusive? The answers to these types of questions give a clue to possible issues that need addressing, issues of which your child need not feel the brunt. Seek to understand yourself and when negative issues are discovered, nip ‘em in the bud.

Do you understand your personal yin & yang, YOUR dual core ?