The Perfect Fit = not you and your family.

Just kidding. Of course, the family you have is the perfect fit for you and you for them. There is a saying that says “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” This is oh so true in the case of parenting. In religious circles it’s said like this “God does not give you tasks you cannot handle”. Our children are sent to us specifically to teach the lesson in Love they bring.

As every child is different, so is the lesson. Ha! You thought it was all about you teaching them, didn’t you? Thats only half of the story. These lessons range from sweet and breezy to gut wrenching. It is our part to recognize what needs to be learned or fixed in ourselves. We then need to learn it or fix it, preferably in short order, like before extended damage is done to the child, physically or emotionally.

Perfect parenting does not exist and yet it is available to everyone because we are perfect in our imperfection. Our imperfection is perfect to the circumstance at hand, which is to expand or evolve into a better parent and person. ‘Perfection’ is overrated: you’re perfect, then what? Seems to me decay is next. Lessons children teach us galvanize us to a stronger, joyful existence and an ever deeper love.

Know that you are the perfect parent if you are doing what it takes to repair YOUR broken heart and emotions in a timely manner. How can you tell what’s broken? Start looking at those buttons that get pressed and you fly off the handle or get a sinking sink feeling in your heart or stomach. Start to recognize the feeling before it a full blown reaction. Get this right and you can have it all; calmness, peace and joy throughout the land and family.

How do you know your family is the perfect fit?