by Rowena Starling | Jun 9, 2016 | Informational
BULLYING is something we parents tend to think ‘other’ kids do, not our kid. It was very interesting to read the ‘How parents encourage bullying in their own children’ section of the ‘Combating Bullying’ excerpted from Jay McGraw’s book, Life Strategies for Dealing with Bullies . There are 7 bullet points in that section and I’m sure I did at least 5 of them (!) when my son was a child. It is quite a good thing that I slowly eliminated these errors once I was made aware of them!
As I read over this list: the definition, warning signs, how parents encourage it, the list of Dos and Don’ts, I felt there were a couple of things missing. The first thing has to do with what attract bullies in the first place and the second, a kind of Catch 22 or reverse Murphy’s Law aspect of things. I feel these two perspective are very important to avoiding and/or nipping the bully problem!
A little bit further in this blog I have the ‘Combating Bullying’… points Sharon Tom of Ohana Resource Group shared with us and feel free to view the entire Save Your Breath TV Show Episode 5 of which she is my guest! Here’s the 1-minute promo video :
First, the attracting of bullies is near the root of the problem. I think we can all agree that if bullies are not attracted to you, there is no problem. So, let’s get to the root of the problem.
The root of the problem is what the child (or any person for that matter) is feeling about themselves. Certain levels of confidence are needed to predominate bully energy. Confidence is instilled in the home. Frequent conversations centered around building the child (or person’s) self-esteem and confidence from a few different perspectives is key.
The second thing, which is a kind of Catch 22 or Murphy’s Law combo (I’m sure there’s a word for this), is to have your child (or the person) engage in martial arts sports or weight training exercises. This has the triple effect of building their confidence, building their physical skill and, the paradox is, bullies are not energetically attracted to them. It’s the old adage of once you prepare for a problem, it suddenly doesn’t exist anymore. One of my most favorite saying is “Fear knocked at the door. Faith answered. There was no one there.” ~ Anonymous.
The bully isn’t really there or rather, the bully is there because of some fear the child (or person) has within. A fear that has nothing to do with the bully or who the bully is. Once whatever THAT is is addressed, bullies become a thing of the past.
It’s curious to me though, that when we become adults, we change the name of ‘bully’ to various four to seven letter words! Seems to me, bullies are a constant as we progress through life. We just change what we call them. The ones on adult life are handled in the same way as I describe in ‘First thing…’ and ‘second thing’ above. Are you seeing what I’m getting at here?
SO! What do we need to do here? Since bullies are (or can be) a part of the ongoing life saga, we need to incorporate the ‘bully’ conversation into our general conversations with our children. Sort of like ‘the sex talk’ but much earlier and often… with finesse. We can sort of talk around it and through it and sometimes point right to it. (Hey! That rhymes!) Anyway…..
Weren’t we all bullied as children at some point in our lives? Like a rite of passage? Our children should not be running into this problem ‘by accident’. It’s NOT NEW!!! I remember being bullied as a little girl. I had this habit of tattling on the other kids to the adults, wanting to be a goody two-shoes and curry the favor of the adults. I liked adults. They gave me snacks.
One day the kids, got wind of who was tattling and started picking on me. I decided to tell on THAT too! Well, the next thing I know, I’m running to lock myself into the car where they couldn’t get at me! I was safe! You should have seen them, circling like lions. Cajoling me. Telling me to unlock the door, they wouldn’t hurt me. HA! I was born yesterday! I was born the week before!
Share your bully stories and experiences with your children. This is part of the ‘confidence building’ and ‘frequent finessed conversations’ I mentioned earlier. Doing this will shine a light in their minds that helps them be aware and savvy and avoid certain energy in themselves that would attract bullies. You could talk about that also.
You could even tell them of a bully you’ve contended with as an adult or one you’re dealing with now. I’ve been bullied as an adult. I remember distinctly that it was by a few of my business colleagues. I had come into the business before them and had been taught by my upline that ‘we are all leaders’ to the people we bring on board into the company.
Well, as I was asserting myself as the leader of these women I had brought onboard to the company, they rebelled and I was too green to explain to them that I was their leader by way of the company’s training that’s aimed at growing confidence in their new green hires and that they were leaders as well when they bring someone on.
Let me tell you, not only did they have me in tears at a restaurant but I had a woman in rank above us that made a point of chastising me for the very same thing in her office and IN FRONT OF MY BEST NEW HIRE!!! I was in tears again!!! It’s as if she didn’t have the SAME training before me!!! It is only recently that I figured out that some sort of jealousy was in play with the so-called superior colleague and just a plain old superiority complex of my new hires. Both of them ranked higher than me in the professional standing in their prior occupations.
My confidence issues were in play in all three of the bullying situations I described above. I, no doubt, still have some lack of confidence somewhere. It’s easier for me to spot these days. Clearing as I go. You, no doubt, have the same. As we gain confidence in one aspect of our lives to another, many issues fall away. Bullies are part of those issues! Let’s let our kids know! Let’s come out of the closet with it, as they say.
Well, here is the section of Jay McGraw’s book that Sharon sent over. Read it carefully, incorporate what I’ve said above (if you see fit) and let’s give our kids a heads up!!!
COMBATING BULLYING
Bullying is:
- Intentional, aggressive behavior
- Imbalance of power
- Repeated over time
- Physical, verbal intimidation
- Exclusion
- Cyber harassment
Warning signs that your child may be the victim of bullying:
- Makes up excuses not to go to school
- Is often angry, sad or depressed, withdrawn, self-loathing and emotionally erratic
- Frequently hurt by a particular person or group of people
- Frequently picked on in the presence of other people
- Mistakes are turned into a big deal by someone
- Belongings are often stolen or taken
- Always being confronted with lies/rumors
How parents encourage bullying in their own children:
- Exercise absolute control over child
- Threaten the child with spankings or other violence
- Attempt to humiliate or embarrass the child as a way to punish them
- Rule by fear
- Push competition and contest too much
- Teach their child that mistakes are unacceptable
- Tell their child what to say, do or think
If your child is being picked on by a bully, sit down with him or her and go over this list of Do’s and Don’ts to keep them safe:
- Don’t get into a fistfight with a bully or try to retaliate in other ways.
- Don’t believe the insults about you.
- Don’t overestimate how much power a bully has over you.
- Don’t think that bullying will stop if you ignore it.
- Don’t waste time in places online where bullies target you.
- Don’t be afraid to think of new ways to solve the conflict.
- Don’t believe you deserve to be picked on.
- Do get real about bullying and how it makes you feel.
- Do get angry, but keep anger under control.
- Do write down how you feel.
- Do learn to say and believe good things about yourself.
- Do speak confidently when telling a bully not to physically touch you.
- Do work on developing at least one good relationship with a classmate, neighbor and/or older child.
- Do walk or run away if a bully tries to hurt you.
*Jay McGraw’s Life Strategies for Dealing with Bullies , ISBN-10:1416974733
by Rowena Starling | Jun 6, 2016 | Informational
Your child comes home from their weekend with ‘the Ex’ and reports that someone there, an adult, hit them. You don’t know the person. Your Ex does.
I’m reminded of this scenario as I listened to the interview I did on The Save Your Breath Show, Episode 4 with Tori Amos, author of CONSCIOUS YOU, CONSCIOUS YOUTH: A Guide of How To Connect with Your Youth or Teen While Building Your Own Spiritual Ground. A clip of the show is below and it’s available on demand on The OSWN Channel of VoiceAmerica.TV. Needless to say, I was in a fever to confront this woman that hit my Son!
I went to her job the next day and waited for her return from break or lunch or wherever she was but she never showed. My Ex assured me he had handled her and the situation but still, I was uneasy with my Son’s visits with him from then on. I had other reasons for this uneasiness but I’ll decline to put the man’s business out here in this blog.
At the time, I was dealing with the personal devastation of separation, divorce and having lost everything. It was a little difficult for me to separate reason from rage most of the time. Know what I mean? What reaction and action is appropriate in infuriating situations and what are not appropriate? At the time, it was all a blur to me.
What kind of issues are you dealing with when it comes to your co-parenting situation? Is it smooth running? Do you get along well? Are you on the same page with your ‘ex’ when it comes to parenting your child(ren)? If you have a good system going in this regard, count yourself blessed.
So many are struggling with this issue.
There’s the flat-out hatred of the Ex that gets in the way, the tug of war over the kids’ affections, the clever playing of mom and dad against each other by the kids and the non-compliance of custody agreements… to name a few along with their variations and flavors. There is no ‘winning’ in these scenarios. Remember: the child(en) in the middle of this have unresolved feelings. There is no ‘winning’ until they have been able to ‘resolve’ their feelings and that may take years. I have The Family System that I have developed over the years that helps parents navigate the rough seas of parenting and co-parenting.
Let’s just say that the sooner the parents get their act together the faster ‘the happiness’ happens for all involved. I’m reminded of a couple of dear friends of mine that got divorced after about 7 years of marriage. This was before I started my parent mentoring practice. From what I understand, it was the husband that got the 7-year-itch, had a couple of affairs and the wife couldn’t put up with it anymore. Their kids were seven and three at the time. Cute as buttons.
With all the yelling, screaming and fighting that ensued, I saw the kids change before my very eyes. At the beginning of the separation and divorce, the ‘cute as buttons’ became depressed. As can be expected because the mom was depressed and they lived with her, plus they had their own unresolved feelings to contend with.
Once the divorce was final and the parents could see a little more clearly what they were doing to the children, their love for the children won out and they came together in their co-parenting activity. Their madness would have continued had I not pointed out to them separately that their attitudes were toxic to themselves AND their children. As soon as they changed, the children thrived.
Oh! And let’s not forget that the adult offspring of divorcing and divorced parents have issues also!!! Albeit on a different level but no less jarring. The personal grief that consumes some is not to be taken lightly, not to mention the financial and possible emotional and physical support of one or the other parent or both!
So, why are we talking about this? I want us to recognize who we are in this scenario! When we ‘stop in the moment’ and completely recognize our humanity and the humanity of ‘the ex’ and our children, significant pressure is released from our hearts. We can begin to heal ourselves and everyone involved in the situation.
Hurt feelings, anger or hatred must be allowed to flower and leave. Many times the feelings won’t be denied but they can be recognized for the destructive entities that they are and truncated. Our health and happiness depend on us doing that.
Oversimplifying these issues is not what I’m after. For instance, I have a client that was recovering from a devastating divorce when I met her. Her son was 24 years old. She had been divorced for 4 years. Her heart had been broken by ‘the love of her life’. She was 54 and felt she would never love again.
She said “My heart has been broken beyond repair. My son doesn’t come around because I’m so bitter. He says he doesn’t want to ‘hear it’ (the tearing down of his father) but I just can’t help myself. So he stays away.” The stress of it all had taken a toll on them both. I know not where the father is.
Her grief had become a part of her. It had taken on a life of its own! She had not allowed it to flower and leave. She held on to it, nurtured it and fed it with poisonous thoughts of her ‘ex’. She had forgotten who she was and her humanity. We worked to get her back there… to that human that was so vibrant and carefree in her twenties. She now looks and feels much happier! Her son is back in her life and she is relieved to know/remember that love is STILL very possible for her future.
Tools that help eliminate the co-parenting with ‘the ex’ problem: meditation, yoga, remembering our humanity, recognizing there is ‘no fault’ in either of you parents (this may take some doing), regulating and extricating negative emotions (I may need to help you with this) and maintaining a clear channel to your divinity.
OK. There. I’ve said it. If you feel disconnected from The Divine in you then all sorts of problems ensue. Co-parenting would be just one of them. If you feel unbalanced and/or disconnected, here are a few steps to help you reconnect:
Meditate daily. If you’re new at it, I recommend starting with 5 minutes per day and working your way up to an hour per day. You can do 20 minutes in the morning, 20 minutes before lunch and 20 minutes in the evening if you like before jumping to a full hour in one sitting. Once you’ve gotten into the groove of it and have been consistent for a month or so, you can be more flexible with the amount of time done per day.Yoga for 30+ minutes every day or every other day. Yoga is essentially focused exercise and meditation combined.Remember your humanity. Your human self is the physical extension of your divine self. Remember this and respect yourself and your feelings accordingly. Remember this about your ‘ex’ and your offspring and you will respect them and their feelings accordingly. Happiness will ensue.
What if you decide to continue with the status quo (if it is a bad one)? If it’s your comfort zone and that’s where you’re comfortable, your desires are to be respected as a matter of your humanity. The toll it takes on your health and the happiness of your offspring will be felt by the rest of us though, as we are all connected. Surely you don’t want the responsibility of all that, do you? Haha, I’m casting a wide net here but it is true. Just as a loving stone cast in the waters ripples out into every more loving waves, so does the sick, negative and hateful.
This is a Call to Arms to the parents who treasure all that is holy and sacred to take up loving arms against parenting by default, living in fear and anxiety and just generally feeling crappy. Of the ones called, an HEORIC task is laid before them… Bring up the next generation of HEROES.
BE the light that shines for your offspring on the path to Infinite Joy. Give it to yourself first. Have your True and Loving Will. This doesn’t stop just because your child is now an adult. We are forever attracting to ourselves that which we are on the inside. What are you on the inside? What’s showing?
If you find you want help with all this, allow me to do a Complimentary Parenting Breakthrough Session for you. It’s a $250 value for free (while supplies last). Simply fill out and submit the parenting assessment form located at www.saveyourbreath101.com/parenting-assessment and we’ll schedule from there.
by Rowena Starling | Jun 4, 2016 | Informational
You’re running for the bus because you realize you’ve left your baby on it, you trip on a power line and fall flat on your face!!!
The baby being left on the bus represents our distraction with unimportant things. Our running to catch the bus represents our desire to make things right and show our baby how much we love them and tripping on the power line represents our lack of attention to the real power that lies within.
What are power trips? Power trips, in this instance, are those communications we have with people, children, family in which we seek to have our position in a matter dominate and win the ultimate outcome. It’s having it ‘our way’ no matter what they say. Power trips seem to dominate a lot of the exchanges we have with our children especially our teenagers. Isn’t this an energy drain? Sometimes we wonder how we can possibly keep this up for 18+ years! …but we do…
No matter what we say, it’s a constant battle to make any headway. In everyday life with parent and child both engaging in power trips, can you see how this is exhausting? Can you FEEL it? Make a note of this: My battle is with myself. It’s take on the battle or retreat. Retreat is not a real option. If YOU retreat, you both lose. Getting our point across in a single ‘battle’ or skirmish, no matter what it is, becomes more important than winning the war or in this case, the ultimate goal. What is the ultimate goal? The goal is to get them to adulthood, happy, healthy, wise and understanding how to fulfill their dreams.
Our battle is with ourselves. It may help to look at your child and see yourself. Are you willing to recall yourself at that age? I know this is too abstract for many but it is a worthwhile exercise. We exercise or we die. When we look and see ourselves, a certain amount of compassion kicks in. A certain amount of savvy kicks in. We start to remember the games we used to play with our own parents. We gain insight into how to respond in the most effective way. Many times the most effective response is no response at all. Are you willing to save your breath? Let the chips fall where they may. Think of the lesson touching the hot stove teaches. Let it be.
What in the home environment offers support? Our voices are not the only element necessary for teaching. Our composure teaches, our look into their eyes teaches. Our ability to ‘chill’ teaches. The children will need the understanding of how to use these elements as they go out into the world. Confidence teaches. They’ll need to communicate confidence as they move about in the world. Bullies seldom attack confidence… more than once. A strong, confident mind defeats bullies.
Why are there power trips? Well, going deeper into the glib ego answers. We have to look back into our experiences as a child. We can look back there and find answers to an endless number of questions. We can look back as far as the womb and beyond for answers. Then what do we do with these answers? Note this: It’s all about the moment. Ask yourself, what is the answer that will satisfy my curiosity right now? Answer that question. Make it as dramatic as you’d like. Then, apply the satisfaction you get from having that answer to the situation at hand and ask, ‘Do I really need to react the way I am?’
Our energy is a precious resource that we take for granted and it is granted provided we respect the source. Power trips stem from being unbalanced. Unbalanced energy trying to force its way into a particular direction. When we balance our energy, miracles occur. Could you use a miracle right now? The energy issue looms every day. Sometimes we feel up to it. Most times we’re just slogging through. You know what makes the difference?… gives us the energy? Our Love for them. Our love for our children.
They’re living love-lines. Even when they’re being a pain in the butt, the love thing keeps us in check. If we’re not in check, our mojo is off. Overwhelm has taken over. ENERGY is really a boundless resource. Among other things, we’re electrical… a fundamental property of matter made up of electrons, protons and positrons manifesting itself as attraction, repulsion, hot and luminous! Combine all that with the spiritual aspect of things! Can you see and feel the power surge within at just the thought of it?
One of the core understandings for us to have is that we are this boundless energetic being. Just understanding that preempts a certain amount of exhaustion. That exhaustion in turn becomes a thing of the past and a repose for the Hero that you are. Remember this: You are your child’s Hero. They’re looking to you to show the way to handle things. ‘Things’ includes the Self, Others, circumstances, situations, challenges, bullies, etc. When we consider it ALL, there is no way we are to handle it ALL except as the fountain of peace. Otherwise, we lose our mojo and drive ourselves to distraction.
How do we recognize and deal with the ever looming power trip? We can recognize it in the moment with our feelings. The moment we feel out of balance we know we have something to handle within ourselves. It’s not coming from outside. That just our mind playing tricks on us. There is no ‘outside’. We produced it all. We need to draw on that endless Love tap. You know, like the beer tap? … a Love tap. Sit quietly and just feel it fill you up, then respond. I suspect we’re not doing a lot of that or we wouldn’t feel so stressed.
Process and procedures aside, if there ain’t no juice in the line, the lights won’t come on. If the results you’re looking for need 4g and all you can muster is 110V, you need some serious rebooting! Rebooting is easy. My favorite means for doing it is meditation. What do you do to give yourself that extra jolt of Love’s electrical energy?
As you know, different situations call for different levels of engagement. Choosing one’s battles becomes important for reserving your energy for 4g situations. Don’t use 4g on 110 situations. That’s an inefficient use of energy. Efficiency is key for the preservation of self, energy, esteem and nerves.
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What if we don’t deal with these power trips/power struggles effectively? Well, what do you think will happen? How many out of whack parent/child relationships do you suppose are out there? How many have you witnessed? Are you engaged in one right now?
From a global perspective, we’re constantly having to deal with individuals who clearly have ego power issues… from terrorists to school teachers. Let’s start NOW to get us all on the same humanistic page! Remember this: when we get everyone on the same page, harmony ensues. Working together can’t happen without a proper love of humanity.
Nationally and locally, same thing. It’s just closer to home. Note that home is really everywhere. From a home perspective, peace is not a four letter word. Love is. Let’s use THAT four letter word more often and mean it in a place where there is no space or time. Peace and love go to hell when power struggles gain priority. Is that what we want?
Save your breath sometimes. It’s not necessary to badger or say the same things over and over again when you have laid out the whyfors. Silence speaks in more than one way. In fact, when you’re silent, there is a communication happening. The words you spoke before are resonating. You don’t have to say them again. You just need to be as you would if you were waiting to see the result of having said them before.
Not only are YOUR words resonating but the voice of God whispers in their heads also. Your voice, the voice of God, their own egos chiming in. The kid has stuff to work through. Give them some space. Give yourself some space. And remember: power trips make for bruised egos and feelings of resentment.
by Rowena Starling | Jun 2, 2016 | Informational
You’re visiting with friends who live on the border of Wyoming near Yellowstone National Park. It about 8p at night and they’ve left for the store. You hear a strange noise in the kitchen. You round the corner and find yourself eyeball to eyeball with a grizzly bear! Fear sets in. Should you slam the door and run or continue to stand there frozen and hope it doesn’t care?!! Anxiety has paralyzed you!!!
That’s what it like for some parents who have anxiety over being parents! This post is about the various forms of anxiety we parents feel and the effect it has on our integrity. Do you feel anxiety in your parenting?
What kinds of anxiety do you carry around? Many parents feel that if they could somehow maintain a friendship with their offspring their (the parent’s and the child’s) world would be happier but it’s really deeper than that. If they would just realize that their child comes here with ego and that their (the parent’s) current and long-term sanity are at stake, they would accept the help they so desperately need.
There IS this anxiety of being the disciplinarian or authority figure vs your child’s friend. Well, a friend is someone who knows you well and is fond of you. Someone who is an ally, sympathizer and supporter. If you’re on point as a parent, your offspring becomes your friend once they reach adulthood but they can’t possibly be that as a child. They don’t know you well enough yet.
What are they getting to know about you? Because they come here with ego, they’re getting to know you’re a pushover. How many times have you seen a parent helpless in the face of a tyrannical child? What was happening at home that gave the child the ‘authority’ to behave that way in public?
I have a Family System that I’ve developed that helps parents with this and many other aspects of parenting that stresses us parents out. Anxiety is a silent killer. Half the time you don’t even know it’s there.
What is anxiety? It’s worry and uneasiness over what MAY happen. It’s our mind riding us. It’s our hearts being squeezed.
There is the anxiety over bringing a child into this world in the first place! Horrible place that it’s perceived it to be, there is quite a bit of worry and handwringing over that. Every day in the news we’re reminded of what the ‘life sentence’ could be that we place on our sweet unborn child. If it’s not the violence of our fellow man, it was the violence of mother nature and freak accidents that send us into crying fits. I could see no joy in it. Why bring a child into this kind of world?
Do you worry over having the money necessary to support a child, a family? It’s right up there in the big three of anxieties and fears. The struggle many parents face in this challenge is overwhelming to the point of divorce. Would you let me help you jump this hurdle? It starts with losing the fear or anxiety that’s holding you back… eating at you in the background. We are HEROES and as such, we use every tool at our disposal to crush the enemy. Anxiety and fear are the enemy. I have the tools.
I worried about being smart enough or wise enough to influence the life of a child. I was worrying in a vacuum, not doing any research, just worrying. I’ve talked to more than a few young mothers and would be mothers who voiced the same concern.
Man! I wish I had mastered this information before my Son was born. I actually thought ‘winging it’ was what we were supposed to do! I did have the decency of forethought to ‘think’ that if I waited until I was older and more mature I would have all of the wisdom and knowledge I would need to raise a child… and so I waited. I waited, not knowing that the roots of old heartache and insecurity had not been killed. I reached a magical age limit preordained by biology and medical science that said, “It’s time” and I went forth and multiplied.
Anxiety is often brought on by the idea of being a perfect parent. Perfect parenting doesn’t exist and yet it’s available to everyone because we are perfect in our imperfection. Our imperfection is for the circumstance at hand, which is to expand and evolve into a better parent and person.
Besides, perfection is overrated; you’re perfect, then what? Seems to me decay is next. It’s all downhill from there! We’re being perfected as we go by the lessons our children teach us. Lessons children teach us galvanize us to a stronger, more joyful existence and an even deeper understanding of love.
Why must we address anxiety? Anxiety is a significant health issue and silent killer. It’s rooted in fear, causes stress and has a close relationship with depression!
It’s something we can pass along to our children. Do you want to do that? We all may appear to be separate from each other by our skin but our emotions and feelings do not have skin barriers. There is a constant ebb and flow on our emotional exposure. It’s part of the 93% of non-verbal communication. ‘Communicable’ emotion is what I call it. You know, like communicable disease…
We must address it and build up our protection from it from within. As in protection from any communicable disease (dis ease) we must fortify ourselves from within. How do you do that for yourself and then for your child? Remember, oxygen mask on You first… Do you remember why?
So how do we rid ourselves of this anxiety? The quality of your attention is the quality of your parenting results. Listen with your whole body as often as you can. Things have a tendency to get hectic. If one has a lot of background noise and emotion going on in one’s head and heart, one will miss a lot of what is said and totally miss important cues to what’s really going on in the child’s mind and heart.
Know that you are the perfect parent even if all you’re doing is what it takes to repair YOUR broken heart and emotions in a timely manner. How can you tell what’s broken? Start looking at those buttons that get pressed that cause you to fly off the handle or cause you to get a sick sinking feeling in your heart or stomach. Start to recognize the feeling before it’s a full blown negative reaction. Then take a break. Stop in the moment! Breeeeathe…. Get this right and you can have it all; calmness, peace and joy throughout the land and family!!!
Keep your balance. Balance feels good, gets and gives respect and sounds like the calm whispers of the wind, the soft purr of a jaguar engine or the crack of thunder in a storm. It depends on what is needed in the moment to restore balance. Leaning too far in either direction brings up a not so good feeling. That’s your cue. Where do you think the line is between irresponsible parenting and child abuse?
What are you going through right now? It’s exactly as you have requested, maybe unconsciously… I know, I know there are some who are going through some pretty rough experiences. Are you asking for a mess or attracting hardship? We are ‘made’, ‘born’ to ask and receive. The asking may have been ‘unconscious’.
Raising children is part of The Circle of Life. There is no point in having anxiety over their coming here. This is their world, just as it’s ours. They own it. We are all born to serve The Expansion of The Great Intelligence of The Universe. As bad as you may think it is, we’re ultimately just another stretch of Cosmic Imagination.
Your creation of a legacy of having the courage to do the right thing, having a will to create the family you want and finding a way, builds integrity in your child and family unit. Walk the talk. Parent by example. It’s easier than you think.
Would you like to eliminate fears and anxieties in minutes rather than taking months and years! Everything about us is communication and how we feel in all aspects of our lives. If you have fears and/or anxieties that stand in the way of you making the money you know you’re capable of or stand in the way of dealing with parenthood in a thoroughly loving and effective way, if you find you are often anxious over disciplinary issues or what the future holds, contact me through the complimentary parenting assessment at saveyourbreath101.com/parenting-assessment. It’s a $250 value for free for a limited time only. You’ll be glad you did!
You were born to be a HERO to your child. There’s a saying, “God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called.” I believe this is true. Not all people are called to be parents AND many parents don’t pick up the mantle of being responsible parents, HEROES for their children, and our world suffers because of it.
THIS IS A CALL TO ARMS!!! I call now for parents who treasure all that is holy and sacred to take up arms against parenting by default, living in fear and anxiety and just generally feeling crappy.
Of the ones called, an HEROIC task is laid before them… Bring up the next generation of HEROES.
BE the light that shines for your child(ren) on the path to Infinite Joy. Give it to yourself first. Have your True Will. This doesn’t stop just because your child is now an adult. Even the grizzly bear in the kitchen senses unconditional love and will walk away.
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