Heart problems often start once the kids are grown. Well here we are in a brand new year with a brand new start. I’ve taken a bit of time out to assess my objectives and I’ve come away with a startling conclusion. I feel like a fraud.
I have to say it. My so-called advice and wisdom on child discipline comes with more than a little regret. My own Son, who is now 28, alternately seeks my advice and counsel or holds me in contempt. I’ve had to take the time to sort this out. Here it is:
For those of you who have minors still, just know that when they grow up, they become who THEY are. It will be tempting to blame yourself for their perceived shortcomings. BANISH the thought! For all of the molding and building we do as parents, the fact remains that we are merely the ushers, the conduits of the future as our parents were for us. How deeply do we blame our parents for our shortcomings? How much love for our parents is sacrificed because of our upbringing, THEIR lack of wisdom? In the final analysis, how much of who we are today is really THEIR (our parents’) fault? Do we as adults take responsibility for our lives or do we still, like whiney teenagers, hold our parents in contempt for all that they were able and unable to do for us?
Let’s get over ourselves. Our parents were not perfect nor were theirs. Maturity dictates that we don’t blame the angels for God’s work. The beauty of life is that we are able to expand in ALL directions once we reach adulthood. The trick is getting to adulthood! Some don’t make it. Don’t blame yourself! Let’s love our humanity, our parenting, warts and all. Tote that barge! Lift that bale! Turn that kid’s cell phone off!
Please tell me what you think in the comments below and, if you have not already done so, download a FREE round of service on my Save Your Breath App for Android so that you CAN turn the kid’s phone off remotely if needed! Here’s the link http://bit.ly/y558Et .
Family holidays rock!!! SOOooo much love displayed. I heartily encourage us all to spread the love around and nurture it all year long! I’ll do my part. Will you do it with me? What will we harvest at the end of the year of all of us engaging EVERYONE in a loving way?
Let’s all love each other every day like we’re the most special people in the world – the butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker. Your neighbor, the ones who cut us off on the freeway, the grocery clerk, the vet. Send, give love to them as I give it to you now and always. WHAT an endeavor! Will you do it with me?
Please answer in the comments below. Will you help me compound the love of why family holidays rock?
Art paintings of mine that I call ‘Soulscapes’ (a concept I copyrighted in 1997) start this slide show put together for me by A Band of Women (we were once ‘wives’, you should check us out). Like many other parents, I have a side that others don’t see. Sharing this side of me with you again this season.
I do these oil paintings as custom pieces from an interview that I have with the individual. Two of them (#5 & #6 above in the slide show) are sold. If the other Soulscapes in the show resonate with you they are available to you or you can commission your own custom piece for 40% off until December 31st. They range in price from $2,880 (20″x24″) to $13,000 (44″ x 38″). That’s $2,440 to $6.500 respectively until 12/31.
Hope you enjoy, then message me to order yours at Rowena@saveyourbreath101.com!
Standardized test are coming and with them comes stress and anxiety, both for the student and his or her parents. Too often, good parents do exactly the wrong things that push their child away from studying. It doesn’t have to be that way. Test time doesn’t have to create tension and drama in the home.
I wrote Test Prep Sanity: How to help your child excel on standardized test without driving each other crazy to help parents create the right home environment for their children’s success. In this book, I use my 14 years of experience to show parents how to encourage personal responsibility and growth while keeping everyone as relaxed as possible.
Test Prep Sanity is a must-read for every parent whose child is taking a standardized test. It shows parents everything they need to help their children succeed, including:
– When to start preparing
– How to find the best tutor for your child
– When to register for the exam and which books to buy
– How to make sure your child studies without constant supervision
– How to talk about the test with your child
– How to handle complaining
– What to do if your child won’t study
– What to do, eat and wear on test day
– When to expect results
– How to improve test scores on subsequent tests
Standardized test shouldn’t turn homes into battlegrounds. I’m asking you to help me promote Test Prep Sanity for it’s November 27th release date. It’s available on amazon.com. With your help, we can reduce the pressure of standardized test while increasing communication and personal responsibility for students. Parents want to help their kids-let’s give them the help they need.
Looking for good attitudes. That’s all we want. “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” ~Chuck Swindoll. Have your children and teens know NOW that HOW they meet disappointment influences how happy they are.
Recent Comments