You’re at the mall, strolling along, minding your own business, excited to be meeting your offspring for lunch on his lunchbreak from work. Just as you round the corner in the hallway to the food court, an old nemesis jumps out of the shadows in front of you and starts verbally beating you for eating meat and therefore causing global warming!
HappyNewYear!!! Is this the year you and your family will live more healthfully? Are you planning on optimal health and well-being for yourself and your family? Of course you are. No parent worth their salt will plan for less. Is natural and organic (vs. artificial and processed) your plan, your approach to life? You know, the offspring are watching…
All of the money in the world is useless if we don’t have our health or if our child cannot be cured of a disease. Prevention is key. I know most of us are busy and, possibly, flat broke busted financially to boot! Have you noticed we’re constantly bombarded with buy buy buy fast food, junk food and all manner of unavoidable exotic food temptation? It’s exhausting! (but OH how I love it.)
Prevention (healthy living), though, is cheaper than doctor visits and hospital stays. Poor eating habits and too much reliance on Big Pharma are proven to cost us WAY more than the healthy alternatives! The best things in life really ARE free. Wouldn’t you like to start the new year with the basic best that life has to offer?
“It’s no secret that fried food is bad for you. But you may not know that it causes mitochondrial dysfunction and artery damage for up to 24 hours after eating it. Your brain cells, which have 15 thousand mitochondria (compared to hundreds to a few thousand in other cells) have less energy when they do not function optimally. When they are sluggish, you feel sluggish, and get the dreaded brain fog.
This is what mitochondria look like.”
~ http://www.factslides.com/s-Health
Parents, in particular, need heed because our offspring are watching what we ‘do’ more than what we ‘say’. We parents need to explore more the various ways we can rescue ourselves from bad eating habits. The ‘exploring’ can be fun!
Nearly every chronic and devastating disease known to mankind has it’s root in what we’ve eaten or ingested in some way. What are you putting on your skin? That’s another way of ‘ingesting’!
Is there a cure-all? There is. Let me gradually ease into the solution…
The mind, body, spirit connection rules our lives. The sooner we ‘get with’ that connection, the happier and healthier we’ll be! To what degree do you engage this connection and teach it to your offspring?
There are countless stories of people coming out of many different kinds of hardships in the health, relationships and financially once they got serious about what really matters (their and their child’s health) and made wiser choices in their nutrition and medicinal care. I recall quite distinctly the experience of one of my clients, a family. (I work with parents… which benefits the whole family.)
The parents were ‘matter of fact’ people, not the religious sort. They are professionals, looked to be in generally good shape physically, at the time… until you looked into their eyes, their faces…
Their skin had a greyish pallor to it. Their eyes were tired. Their energy was weak. (No, they are not smokers.)
It wasn’t only that they were tired, exhausted and at the end of their wits with the whole ‘parenting’ deal, as the Mom described it, but they (and their children, ages 3 and 7) also had chronic illnesses that contributed quite a lot to the family discord and chaos.
The kids were cranky and sick. The parents were stressed and exhausted. The family was on the brink of collapse from the consumption of too much of the bad stuff (junk food 3 or more nights a week because of the parents’ busy schedules, sodas (which they all loved) and very little exercise (only enough in the park to amuse the kids).
The parents regarded the ‘mind, body, spirit connection’ as something that was woowoo and not to be taken seriously. The Mom said, “we don’t have time for that crap.” The Dad said, “if you can even regard it as crap.”
The root of the problem was this disconnect in understanding what really constitutes basic human happiness and well-being.
“Wellness is not a ‘medical fix’ but a way of living – a lifestyle sensitive and responsive to all the dimensions of body, mind, and spirit, an approach to life we each design to achieve our highest potential for well-being now and forever.” ~ Greg Anderson
Health, the thing itself, is the result of respect for and the engagement in the activities and processes that lead to and maintain our optimal physical performance and happiness. To poopoo the ‘mind, body, spirit connection’ is to invite sickness and disease and leave a hole for the ego mind to do its mischief! It’s to wonder why things aren’t working.
What is this ‘mind, body, spirit connection’? (Going forward in this writing I’ll refer to it as the MBSC.) Well, we readily identify with our bodies, so I think that part seems clear. We seem to readily identify with our minds. Our Spirit, though, that’s a bit of a mystery to many and connecting to or with it seems like a remote possibility, IF it is real at all!!!
A healthy body and healthy mind help promote our recognition of the connection to our spirit. After all, we are earthbound (at the moment). The spirit, in turn, supports/promotes a healthy mind and body through communion with our divine essence, our Creator! It’s sort of a symbiotic relationship (not sure of the word for ‘three’ being in a mutually advantageous relationship. Do you know it?).
Let me ask you this: do you believe in miracles? If your answer is “no” (as was the answer from my parent clients discussed here), how do you suppose we all got here? If we are an accident, as many insist is the case, then how do you explain the intricate workings of our bodies and minds, let alone the earth and universe?
Our spirit hold our cells together; collectively, they hold the earth together; they hold the cosmos together. What would happen if you were to directly address your spirit, the thing that holds everything together? What a prospect!
What would happen if you were to deliberately attempt to ‘connect’ to it? That sounds a little redundant… attempting to connect with that which literally connects every cell in your body? Where do you suppose the ‘disconnect’ is?
The ‘disconnect’ is our minds distracting us from this magnificent Spirit part of ourselves. When we quiet our mind in meditation and listen to this silent part of ourselves we begin to heal in places that we didn’t even know was sick! Our health begins to turn around, improve. Insurmountable financial problems begin to be dwarfed by our recognition of ‘true wealth’ and eventually disappear in shame. (This is the cure-all.)
If you do believe in miracles, do you place a limitation on them? Many of us do. Until we can get ‘unlimited’ with them, embracing and engaging the MBSC in ever deepening consistency will help move the agenda we want along.
My clients are much happier now. The color has returned to their cheeks. They understand and engage what is truly important. They view their children as amusing to them now rather than endless frustration and worry. The whole family’s in on the MBSC. They are teaching the children well.
If you (or your family) are having health challenges, choose to engage the MBSC. Look carefully into your nutritional, physical and medicinal habits. Increase the speed of your recovery by doing daily meditation.
Mysterious illnesses are not mysterious. Many times they are simply an answer to neglect. Is it challenging for you to even consider all of the healthy options and changes that are necessary for your family to adopt? Relax. Take baby steps. Adopt a new healthy habit every month or few months. Start with daily meditation.
You were born to be a HERO to your child. There’s a saying, “God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called.” I believe this is true. Not all people are called to be parents AND many parents don’t pick up the mantle of being responsible parents, HEROES for their children, and our world suffers because of it.
THIS IS A CALL TO ARMS!!! I call now for parents who treasure all that is holy and sacred to take up arms against parenting by default, living in fear and anxiety and just generally feeling crappy. Of the ones called, an HEROIC task is laid before them… Bring up the next generation of HEROES.
BE the light that shines for your offspring on the path to Infinite Joy. Give it to yourself first. Have your True Will. This doesn’t stop just because your child is now an adult.
Is hanging out with the family during the holidays tiring?
“Santa Claus has the right idea. Visit people once a year.” – Victor Borge
Family holidays (holy days) are happening right now (and every day). Many of us go out of our way to try and create a festive, joyous feeling for ourselves and our families during this special time. Others of us are buried in depression, debt and dread. I call it the DDD. It can all be too much on either side of this equation.
Remind yourself frequently that your body is your personal machine. Pay attention to what it’s saying to you. Nourish it, exercise it and protect it from harm, without exception. Teach the children.
Your mind is the boss of the nourishing the body process and command central of your emotions, good and bad, easy or stressful. Pay attention to the messages it sends to your body that create the ease or stress. Teach the children.
Here lies the true root all problems and stress: your thoughts direct your emotions which then communicate to the body and your life experience. Monitor your thoughts closely and cease them at every opportunity (unless you’re calling on them to fix a problem, do work, create something wonderful, etc.). Nip them. Teach the children.
A 2015 survey conducted by Healthline, a consumer health information site based in San Francisco, Calif. Sixty-two percent of respondents described their stress level as “very or somewhat” elevated during the holidays, while only 10 percent reported no stress during the season. Among the holiday stressors listed by respondents were the financial demands of the season, negotiating the interpersonal dynamics of family, and maintaining personal health habits such as an exercise regimen.
Here in the middle of the holiday season, I remind you again of the WONDERFUL remedy and creative, healing mantra Dr. Joe Vitale shared with us at the FROM PARENTING PAIN TO PARENTING PEACE World Summit called Ho’oponopono. He describes it in this clip from the interview.
Do you give thanks for your trials and tribulations? Do you give thanks for your difficult child(ren) and/or offspring? How about giving thanks for all the challenges you face, whether its family, job, health or significant other?
Think of these challenges as a wake-up call to ‘change’, a call for ‘You’ to change. I’ll get into this a bit further in a moment. Let me just brake in with this prelude to my recommendation. We haven’t talked in a while:
“I hope this season of Thanksgiving and Love envelopes you with all of the loving intensity it embodies. Here we are, post ‘World Summit’. Even if you have no offspring, sincerely deep information, methods, systems and processes were given at the FROM PARENTING PAIN TO PARENTING PEACE World Summit to help make your life more peaceful now and ultimately most peaceful always! How much more peace and happiness can you tolerate in your life?
It’s most appropriate during this Season to highlight Dr. Joe Vitale’s interview from the summit as he shares the Ho’oponopono mantra, “I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You”. Here, have a look at a 3 minute clip from the interview and see how he describes it:
How are the holidays influencing your feelings and sense of peace?Take the time this season to refresh and renew yourself and your family. Make it a daily priority. Engage the Ho’oponopono practice to produce magic and miracles in your life, if you don’t already have a practice that does that for you…”
Now back to ‘giving thanks for difficulty’.
“For within your flesh, deep within the center of your being, is the undaunted, waiting, longing, all-knowing. Is the ready, able, perfect. Within you, waiting its turn to emerge, piece by piece, with the dawn of every former test of trial and blackness, is the next unfolding, the great unfurling of wings, the re-forged backbone of a true Child of Light.”― Jennifer DeLucy
Difficulties are a call for you to change. They are a blessing in disguise, an opportunity for your significant growth! This time of year is particularly potent for the hibernation or incubation of the seeds that expand your greatness. Our challenges and difficulties often heighten this time of year because the people we love gather energetically and physically around us and press those seeds into activation. As they germinate in the Winter months, we can choose to recognize the challenge/difficulty and choose to transcend our usual feelings of pain. THAT is the gift of the difficulty. Otherwise, our growth is stunted.
“A full structural equation model revealed that the effect of stress on well-being was mediated positively through a problem-focused coping process combined with a growth component. Stress was negatively mediated through an avoidant-focused coping process and a distress component. … The hypothesis that stress can produce both increased and decreased subjective well-being was confirmed.” ~ Karlsen E1, Dybdahl R, Vittersø J., NCBI, NIH
In other words,
settle, once and for all, your differences (that cause you pain) by intervening on your behalf (and on behalf of your loved ones) with “problem-focused coping processes” (like Ho’oponopono, Meditation, etc.) in answer to and the elimination of the problem, a “growth component”, you would not otherwise recognize if not for the ‘difficult person’ or situation!
Solving whatever that problem is frees you up emotionally and improves your overall living experience in addition to improving your health! When you do it for yourself, you’re simultaneously doing it for your kids. Gotta give thanks to that problem!!!
Stress continues when we attempt to ignore the problem, avoid it or actively engage in combat, “avoidant-focused coping processes and distress components”. Isn’t great to be at ‘choice’ about it? Deliberately recognize your choice in the matter. Own it! Do you feel a lot less like a victim now?
For example,
I have a client who was triggered by his wife’s parents when they got together at Thanksgiving and Christmas. These gatherings were impossible for him to avoid because of the family traditions they are instilling in their 3 kids. For him, the trigger happens as soon as he or they walk through the door. The parents would have preferred their daughter marry within their Jewish faith (he’s Catholic). Her parents are good people, they’re just steeped a lot deeper in their own traditions than is comfortable for him.
As a result, it feels to him that they come over to his home grudgingly and with a lot of self-righteous judgement. They bring up religious issues and argue over facts in The Bible. They won’t let it go if he tries to dismiss or change the subject. All of this was upsetting to his wife and children. The children were becoming difficult because they could feel the tension between their parents and grandparents. Because of some financial influence the grandparent have over the household, this anguish continued year in and year out. Seemed to me they were all being bullied by the grands.
When I met my clients 2 years ago, I’ll call them ‘The Gibsons’, the husband (Josh) had begun to have panic attacks, anger issues and problems at work, stemming from dealing with his kids on a daily basis and just the anticipation of these little family get-togethers! This had gone on now for about 5 years and his resistance was running very low. Family problems were starting to affect his health.
This was the very epitome of ‘recognizing the value of giving thanks for difficult children’ (and relatives)! When I met Josh he was riveted by this question, “Do you recognize the value of having difficult children?” (At the time, I thought the children were the main problem.) He said, “No”.
I explained how difficult children (or others, situations) are a signal to us to look within ourselves to question our triggers. OUR internal TRIGGERS are the source of our pain and discomfort, not the external person or situation that we ‘think’ caused it! Further, once this is recognized, healing begins. Now, isn’t THAT difficulty worthy of our thanks, our gratitude?
Here is one of the processes that I had him engage to help remedy problems in the ‘moment’ when the bad feelings come up:
Stop in the moment that you feel the first twinge of discomfort. Breathe. (That’s right. You need to start paying closer attention to yourself. We spend way too much time ‘external’ and reacting to the ‘external’).
Relax in the moment. Detach and deescalate as you breathe. Observe what’s happening with the other person as you breathe.
Assess and get to your most appropriate reaction from this calmer state.
Later, when the triggering moment has passed, take time for quiet reflection and investigation into what’s going on with YOU. Pinpoint THAT thing and begin to extricate it through Meditation, Ho’oponopono or whatever your method for clearing and cleansing your fears and negative emotions. If it runs deep and recurring, if you or someone you know has a fear, anxiety or phobia that is plaguing, sabotaging and holding you/them down, I am offering ‘emotion emancipation’. GET OUT OF FEARS, ANXIETIES and PHOBIAS in a matter of minutes rather than let them plague you for even one more month or years! Here’s the link to the service: www.emotionemancipation.com .
Today, Josh is very much at peace with what’s happening in his current situation. He says, “Rowena, I wish I had met you years ago. My life today is much more at peace. Very few things bother me and NOTHING triggers me. My in-laws seem to have chilled out. I guess my lack of reaction to their igging took the fun out of it for them (and my kids). Thank you for holding my hand as I worked through this process. Dalia (his wife) is very pleased with the ‘new me’.”
If you find yourself cursing difficult people or situations in your life, it’s a good idea to 1) Stop in the moment, 2) Relax, detach & observe what’s happening and 3) Assess what your next best steps that you can take are! This is the beauty of difficulty. This is how it serves you. Give Thanks for it as well as for all the beauty that is easily recognized in your life. The difficulty is the catalyst for your growth if you allow it to be so. If you don’t, you get more of the same as you’ve always gotten and possibly worse!
I urge you to take some quiet time now with a pen and paper and make a list of the things that ‘eat’ you. You already know what most of them are. Do the process above and begin to remedy these difficult situations with kids, family, friends, co-workers, etc. Melt through them one by one. Imagine a near future when the problem(s) have disappeared and are a distant memory.
Teach the children. We, parents, are shaping the future of our world, our children’s world. They are watching and learning from EVERYTHING WE DO!!! They’re learning how to handle difficult people and situations from us! If your kids are difficult to you, what feeling are they picking up about themselves that further exacerbates the ‘difficulty’? They’re learning from us how love and gratitude looks and feels. When are you ‘finished’ giving thanks?
FREE YOURSELF from the constant negative feelings for your and your offspring’s sake. …
I know. Easier said than done. Do you know that negative feelings dominate our physical existence to a very large degree?
My client and I (I’ll call her Jessie) have very similar observations and experiences around this subject (as does most of the world population). Jessie was a wild one (she’s 41 now). She was the spitting image of her mother in every way; looks, attitude and charm along with wild parties and alcohol.
She had a negative streak though. It would rear its ugly head often and become very verbal when some sort of unexpected change occurred in her life. It was a constant noise in her head, negative self-talk that she felt was “eating away at her brain cells”.
For example, when she and her husband (parents of two beautiful children age 8 and 9) divorced she couldn’t help but feel her wild partying ways got in the way, causing her to neglect her children and lose her husband. She and her husband (Ted) had bouts of depression and complained that their own parents were nearly the same in their life track; partying, charm and endless negative self-talk and negative feelings when things didn’t work out the way they planned. They said there was always a “pervading feeling of dread”. The partying was an attempt to coverup this feeling or at least ignore it temporarily.
Their children are showing signs of stress, as children do when that is what surrounds them. This points up very well how important it is that we parents engage self-care to the best of our ability. We are literally teaching our offspring how to ‘be’ in life. They learn by watching/feeling us!!!
These negative feelings ran in the background and drove negative and destructive behavior. The saddest part of this is they considered it ‘normal’, just something to ‘deal with’, a ‘part of life’. Is this the way YOU see the negative feelings running in the background of your life?
Today, her parents are chronically ill with heart disease (they’re in their 60s and 70s) and she has had her own bout with cancer (her last, I hope). Ted’s parents are now deceased from various chronic diseases. Ted is still depressed and considering letting me help him.
Many of us are just walking around feeling bad and accepting it. We’ve come to think of it as ‘normal’! At varying times of our lives these negative feelings (fear, anxiety and phobias) are so strong we can hardly concentrate.
According to the American Psychological Association’s Stress in America survey, a growing proportion of adults report that stress impacts their physical and mental health. One-third, or 33 percent, of adults report changes in sleeping habits, 32 percent report headaches and 27 percent report an inability to concentrate due to stress. Not only that, 47 percent of adults report losing patience with or yelling at their partner, and 46 percent report similar behavior with their children because of stress.
No matter the strength or intensity, these feelings are bad news. Even the very subtle ones have a devastating impact on our long-term health because they can compound over time and snowball into chronic disease. It isn’t entirely the fault of aging and various other so called ‘obvious’ causes, such as genetics and injury, that brings on health problems.
How we feel is central to what we attract in all aspects of our lives; our relationships, health, wealth. We inherently know that stress is not good for us and not ‘normal’. We know inside it’s not normal, not consciously. Many don’t have a clear conscious understanding that it’s not normal to carry stress around the way we conveniently carry so many layers of fat around our bellies.
Many of us parents are a slave to our emotions and negative feelings from our own childhood. We received them from our parents and they from their parents and so on. Would you be surprised to find your offspring have the same complaints about you that you have with your parents or about the way you handled the ‘opposite’ things you did to avoid doing what your parents did?
These feelings get to flower in the ever present, constant, family confusion that serves to compound the chaos and stress! It’s killing us, softly and not so softly. Just because you can ingest slow poison, doesn’t mean you should.
Do you find you lash out automatically on your family, co-workers or strangers? Do you feel sad, low, dejected most of the time? Are you easily angered, irritated or vexed?
“Many of us feel stress and get overwhelmed not because we’re taking on too much, but because we’re taking on too little of what really strengthens us.” ~ Marcus Buckingham
Here are a few remedies that I know will make a real difference for you should you choose to do them:
I beseech you to engage meditation in a serious manner. It will connect you to your core peaceful self and link to your innate power within that heals what ails ya’. There are over 20 types of meditation. Freely explore the different types to find the ones that suit you best. I, personally, prefer to get right to the ‘silent, quiet mind’ as quickly as I can. No music or guided meditation. No ‘foreplay’, as I like to call it. Here are the steps I take:
Find a quiet place where you can sit comfortably in a chair with your feet flat on the floor and your back supported. Sometimes I lie down. Sitting is best though.Have your spine in alignment so that your nourishing energy can flow easily from one chakra to the next.Close your eyes and, if you can, plug your ears.Immediately go to silence, quiet mind. This may take 5 minutes or it may take 20 minutes depending on how noisy your mind is. When thoughts come, bat them away or tell your mind “thanks for sharing” and bat them away. Sometimes, especially if you’re new at it, you must reason with the mind with “what is the very worst outcome/thing that could happen?” The answer is usually “death”. Thank your mind for sharing. That usually shuts it up. Since there is no ‘death’ we’re concerned with in this moment because death isn’t ‘real’ and not to be feared.I usually like to hang out in silence for at least as long as it took me to get there. Five minutes is a minimum I shoot for otherwise.When the meditation session is over, I do a short prayer of thanks to God for being with me (if you don’t believe in God, substitute the name for what YOU call Divinity), for ill ones I want helped, for favors I’d like to receive, etc. I then gently open my eyes, feel my hands, feet, back and slowly get up and stretch.
Keep that silence of mind throughout the day. If you can, meditate in the morning, reinforce it before lunch (do a 20 minute meditation) and again before you go to sleep. To what extent do you engage meditation?
Stop in the moment (do random moments throughout the day).
Stop in the moment, especially to monitor your thoughts or if you feel you’re about to be angry, this could be angry at a person, situation or some other trigger. Assess what you’re feeling and
Implement the appropriate, healthy action… whether you’re dealing with a difficult adult or child: stop in the moment, assess, take appropriate action. Do you need a meditation break? Yoga? Walk in the park? Capture that ‘silence of mind’ and have it extend throughout your day(s). THAT is where the miracles are.
Make it a point to see the beauty in every thing. Most of life is beautiful. We just need to change our perspective and see it. Meditation will help us change our perspective. This is an active moment to moment exercise.
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We are placed here on earth to have fun. Somewhere through the generations, we lost sight of that or completely forgot it!!! Bring that BACK to the front of your mind. Dance with that idea. Revisit your 20s if you think that will help. Our lives are ours. We must protect it!
Your kid is having a tantrum, bouncing off the walls, pounding the floor in one of the nicest restaurants in town. He wants his dessert first and all of the people in the restaurant around you want him to have it! All eyes are on You and this irascible child. The maître d’ comes over, grabs your child, says “You can have him back after dinner” and carries your child away!
Hello, I’m Rowena Starling welcoming you to The Save Your Breath Show where we help parents eliminate the stress and aggravation of parenting whether your child is 5 or 50. Today’s show is about nutrition and the various chemicals we absorb into our bodies that cause us to misbehave and/or feel ill. Your child in the introduction is one who is sensitive to sugar yet is addicted to it.
“Each year, around one billion pounds of pesticides are used across farms, forests, and lawns in the US.1 Around 17,000 pesticide products are in use right now… Research reveals that only 0.1% of pesticides applied reach the target ‒ the other 99.9% impacts the environment. Pesticide residues are widely found in animal feeds too ‒ 80% of corn and 22% of wheat produced in the US each year find their way into animal feed.” ~ Environmental Protection Agency
Why are we looking at nutrition and the things we eat today? Our brains are of primary importance and I believe we take them for granted. Nutrition, what we eat, sets us up for failure and success. I want offspring, as well as parents, to respect the weight of the importance of what we put in our mouths and the effect it has on our health and happiness.
Parents, in particular, need heed because our offspring are watching what we ‘do’ more than what we ‘say’. We parents need to explore more the various ways we can rescue ourselves from bad eating habits. The ‘exploring’ can be fun!
Nearly every chronic and devastating disease known to mankind has it’s root in what we’ve eaten or ingested in some way. What are you putting on your skin? That’s another way of ‘ingesting’!
What then is the effect on your perception of what’s going on with your offspring? What kind of communications are you putting forth? What effect is it having on your integrity? Are you ‘aware’?
“The food you eat can be either the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison.”
~ Ann Wigmore, American Holistic Health Practitioner and Doctor of Divinity.
We have evolved from the rickets and scurvy of yesteryear and we’re still evolving. We’re living longer than ever before. However, our minimum unmet daily recommended vitamin intake is huge and our immune systems are slowly turning against us. Because we’re not getting the exposure to germs that we once did, we have more allergies and asthma than ever before. Something virtually unheard of in our farming days.
What are you allergic to? To what is your offspring allergic? Do you know? Perhaps THAT is why they’re having problems concentrating or whatever the problem is. It’s pretty easy to recognize a problem if you or your child has hives all over the body. It’s quite another thing if we’re not considering the effect of food, medications or allergens on how we feel and react to life.
What’s your nutritional style? Mine is green and yellow vegetables with a helping the size of my palm of protein thrown in for strength plus a random dose of fiber for good measure? That’s my favorite.
Organic food vs. processed food: the big issue of the day. We want to eat organic but cost is an issue. Processed food is cheaper and often tastier but it makes us sick and kills us faster. Hmmm, which one is really the most expensive then?
Food is a profound love-connection that we all share on many different levels: a connection to the food itself, to each other, to our self-worth, to societal class, to love. Food is our love-connection to mother earth, our physical aspect. Food needs to be revered as part of the foundation of our physical love itself.
Have you ever had someone say this meal was made with love? The infusion of this bit of ether, Love, can literally make you well. The chicken soup loving made my Mom makes you well. It’s infused with the ether of Love. Mom’s Apple Pie, cakes and what not. Oh! You know it’s true. There is no negative effect of the sugar in Mom’s baked love offerings!
During the family meals around the table, we gather and distribute the ether of Love, one to the other… even if there’s discord. Love is there. Gathered around the table, looking at itself.
My food story, growing up poor. My mother often had no food to feed my brother and I. Being 4 yrs. older than he, I got more of these days than he did. The feelings are indescribable, as a child, when you to hear “We don’t have food today”or “There’s nothing to eat tonight.”
Can you imagine how my mother felt? I often wonder if I’ve made up for that lack of nutrients as a child. To this day, I have an obsession with food to the point that I barely finish one meal before I’m thinking about the next. I’m much better now than 10 years ago but still, is chalking it up to ‘proper meal planning’ really fooling myself? My solace is knowing that the meditation I engage in heals all deficits.
So, how do we handle this nutrition issue? 1) Whatever you do, include full doses of Omega-3! Buy the best food you can afford. Preferably the kind that grew directly from the ground or walked on it. Affordability is an issue for many.
Many parents feel that buying organic whole food is too expensive but it’s really deeper than that. If they would just realize that cheap food is more expensive in the long run, then they would make a point of buying the best and freshest food they can. Max out vitamin & mineral supplements! Our bodies are our personal temples!
Pesticides are the main reason organic is so big. Soils that have been cultivated and saturated and turned over and over year after year with pesticides and then used to grow crop after crop of sprayed produce is the issue. So yes, if you can afford organic, please do. Eat organic fertilizers vs. inorganic fertilizers.
Our vitamin and mineral intake is poor. Get the highest quality supplements you can find and pound them in. The people at Consumer Labs at https://www.consumerlab.com/RDAs/show a minimum and maximum supplement requirement. Do the maximum. With QUALITY supplements, you’ll find you and your family will feel better, behave better, stay healthier longer and become stronger physically and mentally.
2) Slowly or gradually rid yourself and family of bad eating habits. Cold turkey is no fun and causes quite a bit of unnecessary rebellion. Steady, consistent replacement of the bad with the good is the way to go.
3) You may need to have allergen tests done. Doctors, holistic practitioners and nutritionist have the best referrals for this. You don’t want to keep blaming yourself or your kid for some behavior that’s needing a dietary shift!
4) Look at your emotional attachment to eating, unhealthy or otherwise. There are various means of getting rid of unwanted emotions, thus getting rid of the problem. Would you like to eliminate unwanted emotions, fears and anxieties in minutes rather than taking months and years?!! I can help.
If you have fears and/or anxieties that stand in the way of you making the money you know you’re capable of or stand in the way of dealing with parenthood in a thoroughly loving and effective way, if you find you are often anxious over disciplinary issues or what the future holds, contact me through the complimentary parenting assessment at saveyourbreath101.com/parenting-assessment. It’s a $250 value for free for a limited time only.
What if we decide to ‘just do it later’? Well, problems persist and continue until we get around to it. Is that what you want? Behavior problems, health problems, the brain doesn’t get what it needs, the body doesn’t get what it needs. Then you have you have to ask yourself how much you really Love…
Mysterious illnesses are not mysterious. Many times they are simply an answer to neglect. Do you want us all to start looking like the people in some impoverished 3rd world country?
You were born to be a HERO to your child. There’s a saying, “God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called.” I believe this is true. Not all people are called to be parents AND many parents don’t pick up the mantle of being responsible parents, HEROES for their children, and our world suffers because of it.
THIS IS A CALL TO ARMS!!! I call now for parents who treasure all that is holy and sacred to take up arms against parenting by default, living in fear and anxiety and just generally feeling crappy. Of the ones called, a HEROIC task is laid before them… Bring up the next generation of HEROES.
BE the light that shines for your offspring on the path to Infinite Joy. Give it to yourself first. Have your True Will. This doesn’t stop just because your child is now an adult.
Since you knew and trusted the maître d’ in the beginning intro of this episode, you allowed him and his staff to ‘babysit’ your son while you and the rest of the restaurant patrons enjoyed a quiet dinner. You were very grateful for this help as you have very few dinner nights out because of your son’s behavior. You have a clue now as to what to look for and you’re relieved that there’s hope. You can see it all getting easier now….
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