Adults (parents) tend to water their dreams down as time goes along. A certain exuberance wanes as the stress of providing for loved ones takes hold. The pursuit of a ‘higher’ education in some field that would lead to the ultimate dream is dropped completely or is just a flicker in the back of our mind that gives us hope.
Some of us feel bad or beat ourselves up because we can’t provide our child(ren) with an ivy league education or private school and tutors. I just want to remind you that, though these things are wonderful luxuries, they are not the end-all of success. There are countless millionaires and multimillionaires who did not have this advantage, some didn’t even finish high school. It’s about what the person has going on INSIDE themselves.
The CORE point of education is to have the child (you too?) DISCOVER AND EXPAND their own individual power and creativity! There is no ‘higher’ education than that. If you’ve done that for your child or know that is all you’ll be able to give them, you’ve done the very best or will be giving the very best tool(s) for their ultimate success and happiness in Life.
It’s important that we don’t leave it ALL up to the schools they attend and equally important that we MONITOR what they’re getting in school that promotes the growth and development of their creativity, self esteem and personal power. If you’re lacking in these things for yourself then you’re exploring for two (or more). Hard to give what you don’t have.
Do you lament not getting a ‘certain’ education as an adult?
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In case you missed the first one, Contest #2 is underway with several prizes still left to give out.
The App is free, but if you don’t have an Android phone to play with, did you know you can still enter the contest on behalf of someone who does?
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Own Your Mind. Make this the year of living ‘clearly’. Take control of it. Clarity trumps stress. It’s there first. Keep it first. No matter where you are in your parenting process, you can be clear about where you are at any given moment and make a decision to stay there or leave.
Perhaps you are ‘clearly’ stressed. Do you power through until you collapse and make yourself seriously ill? I propose that we stop doing that. Take your rest and comfort BEFORE you ‘really need it’.
Our minds want us to believe that the trade off is failure or disgrace. The real tradeoff is your life. Our minds are the boss of us for only as long as we let them and as long as we let them, they will run us into the ground.
Parental stresses are ‘out there’, not inside. Stop bringing them in to roost on your nerves and heart. Remember, you are simultaneously teaching your child how to handle life. Hand them lessons on how to BE and maintain their clarity that they can KNOW.
In all of the conversation sets about having to say the same things over and over again in the training of our kids, has anyone considered what this constant mental recording is doing to the minds of us parents? I suspect this regularly recurrent meowing & barking that we parents do comes back to haunt us in old age. As a single parent I found myself having to say the same things over and over and over again.  I’d say to myself ‘If I have to say that one more time, I’ll scream!  I wonder if this is a nightmare in the making, saying this stuff repeatedly…
As an 80 or 90 year old would I, or do they, shoot straight up in a cold sweat in the bed screaming ‘get up!, get up! get up!, clean your room, clean your room, clean your room!, don’t talk back to me, I’m not one of your little friends!’ Just wondered if this is what’s coming because you’re not just saying it over and over to the kid, you’re also recording it over and over to yourself. Is this a nightmare for which we have to look out?
I know that at the age I am now, there were life skills people could have shared with me ,who were my age now when I was in my 30s & 40s. Stuff I would have liked to have known in detail so that I could have avoided some child behavior problems. Thing about it is, they didn’t! So I wonder what the 80 and 90 year olds aren’t telling us 50 & 60 year olds now…
Why risk it? Why not have modern technology ‘say it for us’!? I have no interest in jumping up out of the bed as an 80 year old, looking crazy, saying the same crap over and over again because I ‘got’ it and the kid didn’t!
Tips for parenting include ‘look for opportunities to praise your child(ren)’. Give some form of praise every day. I say this because I notice that in most self-help, success-enhancement courses given for adults, a lot of ‘positive affirmations’ are employed to unprogram all or most of the negative self-esteem programming we received as children.
How about we minimize this necessity from the get-go? I know it is not possible nor feasible to say positive and praise messages to your child at all times. The idea is to cut the negative input to less than 25% of what you would normally do. Most is done without thinking. Time to think about it. Remember, from 0 to 5 years old is when the bulk of who the little person will become is formed!
Sit down. Pour yourself a tea and figure out how you’re going to get this done. Parenthood is humanity’s ‘major leagues’! Respect yourself for taking on the role of a lifetime and get your lines right! These are lines/messages that will ring in the sub-conscious of your child for decades to come. Sit down and think about the negative crap you’re trying to get out of YOUR mind and the project will feel easier.
In fact, if you start with those messages, you will get more than a clue as to what NOT to say over and over and over again. Hey! How about you Save Your Breath and catch yourself BEFORE it comes out of your mouth? Kids can be TRYING. Use those trying moments to give yourself a timeout right along with the child… not necessarily in the same room. Also, check those supposed bland statements and attitudes that suck the joy out of your lives.
How often do you look for opportunities to praise them?
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