by Rowena Starling | Feb 15, 2016 | Informational
Home is where the heartache is. How will you know what you need? You will FEEL it. -“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” ~ Unknown- Who is the student? Is it the child or is it You? It’s both.
There are no accidents. As much as we would like to believe there are, I have it on good authority that there are none. That’s right. That’s what I said. “None.” Our children show up on time and in time with the lessons we(the parents) are to learn. So get off your high horse and get down to business. Lesson 1: BE IN the moment. Lesson 2: BE patient. Lesson 3: BE attentive… and on and on.
Man! I wish I had mastered this information before my Son was born. I actually thought ‘winging it’ was what we were supposed to do! I had the decency of forethought to ‘think’ that if I waited until I was older and more mature I would have all of the wisdom and knowledge I would need to raise a child… and so I waited. I waited, not knowing that the roots of old heartache and insecurity had not been killed. I reached a magical age preordained by medical science that said, “It’s time” and I went forth and multiplied.
My friends, let me have you know that parenthood is a serious 18+ year project. We’re to pick up the mantle and engage as a Life coach. We are training our children for greatness and we’re being trained in grace. After 18 years you’re still a parent but if you’ve done your job, you can have sufficient rest to enjoy a month long vacation and 18+ years of enriched wisdom and exquisite relaxation!
Heartache is something to strike against before it can show up in our homes. When we prepare ourselves and our children for the challenges of life, happiness and joy, we’re fully loving in the moment with it.
To what extent is heartache a part of your home?
by Rowena Starling | Feb 15, 2016 | Informational
Raising children requires wisdom I don’t have. (Myth) Truth: All you need is The Golden Rule.
`Raising children requires wisdom I don’t have’ is something that occurs to people who give the subject serious thought. It has some merit but it is essentially a myth. When it comes to showing them The Way they should go and be with respect to other people, The Golden Rule is truly all you need and I suspect most of us have this basic wisdom.
I’ve spoken about The Golden Rule many times over the last few years, even crowned myself The Golden Ruler because I hold it so dear. This particular rule is one that is essentially innate to our human intelligence …intelligence that must be cultivated, hence, parents. We don’t necessarily feel this rule as toddlers, children. At that stage we’re a ball of ‘mine, mine, mine’ and ‘what about me’.
Think of all of the conflict and suffering that would not have happened had this rule governed each moment of human history! We would have peace throughout all lands. No wars would have been fought. Love would reign supreme and my little brother would not be the scarred creature he is today (just kidding). Our trust would be totally warranted in the food we eat and products we consume because we would know that the people producing these items for us do so as they would do for their own children whom they love as themselves.
Sure, there’s all kinds of wisdom to be had but I venture to say that they exist in lieu of The Golden Rule. They/It exist(s) and is necessary because The Golden Rule is not adhered to in the measure required for our maximum true happiness. Let’s make this correction now. It’s a tall undertaking but well worth the benefits to the futures of our children!
What do you think about the ‘keep it simple’ wisdom of The Golden Rule?
by Rowena Starling | Feb 15, 2016 | Informational
Power trips and struggles seem to dominate a lot of the exchanges we have with our children. It’s a major drain on our energy. Sometimes we wonder how we can possibly keep this up for 18+ years!
No matter what we say, it’s a constant battle to make any headway in everyday life. It’s take on the battle or retreat. Retreat is not a real option.
The energy issue looms every day. Sometimes we feel up to it. Most times we’re just slogging through. You know what makes the difference?… gives us the energy? Our Love for them.
We need to draw on that Endless Love Tap. Sit quietly and just feel it fill us up, then respond. I suspect we’re not doing a lot of that or we wouldn’t feel so stressed. Process and procedures aside, if there ain’t no juice in the line, the lights won’t come on. If the results you’re looking for need 4g and all you can muster is 110V, you need some serious rebooting!
What do you do to give yourself that extra jolt of Love’s electrical energy?
by Rowena Starling | Feb 15, 2016 | Informational
Recess doesn’t just happen at school. What about today’s economic environment and today’s recession? What about the stress of all THAT on the backs of parents?
Unfortunately, this particular problem is not new. It’s age old and persistent. Oftentimes I wish we would just GET OVER IT, already!
How do we get over it? If you would step back and observe, you would see that in spite of this ‘problem’, we are all still here and we persist through thousands of years. There are those of us who settle into a ‘what’s the use’ attitude and remain in the financial class of their parents or lower and there are those who, against all odds, rise above the family legacy. How that is done is not technically a secret anymore. If we dig for the answer, as I did, it can be found.
I have a high interest in having my people have access to these answers! Recess is over! Some of us just didn’t hear the bell. There is a line in consciousness that one crosses that allows, not only an easier time with raising children, it helps enhance all aspects of our lives, even making money. It’s a spiritual ‘yeast’ that expands us in all directions. Thrilling events occur when we tap into this part of ourselves in earnest. Care to tap in with me?
Are you ready to come back from recess?
by Rowena Starling | Feb 15, 2016 | Informational
Subscribe to reason. Some of us parents feel we are in some type of parenting prison. If you were to start over, what would you do first? Would you look to see how to avoid parent prison if you knew it existed?
My experience in this got to be about the process of breaking myself out of the FEELing of being in parenting prison. Had to leave my husband, a single mother now and wondering how I was going to make it. It stands to reason that my first order of business was to feel better.
I did this through meditation but I would like to know what You would do first? I was pretty low and headed lower. Where are You right now? How can I help you?
Breaking out of the feeling of parent prison is a tricky deal. I’m putting systems in place to help but I’m open to your feedback. What are your concerns? Send your question/suggestion and email address with permission to add you to my tribe to rowena@saveyourbreath101.com.
If you were to start over, what would you do first?
by Rowena Starling | Feb 15, 2016 | Informational
Anxiety over having children is justified. (Myth) Truth: Raising children is part of the Circle of Life.
I’ve heard people say more than one time that this world is too fearful and scary to bring in a child of theirs. This is totally understandable. My feelings were the same oh so many years ago.
What needs to be understood, though, is that hormones and the ‘prime directive of the universe’ will probably override this feeling of being scared. There is no point in this fear. Resistance, as The Borg would say, is futile.
We are born to serve The Expansion Of The Great Intelligence of The Universe. Our part in it is not arbitrary. Our part is to be born and play. That is all. Some of us are naughty little children but fortunately, the vast majority of us are not. Don’t let the transgressions of the few keep you from getting the most out of your life, which may include having children.
I know the naughty ones appear all powerful but that’s just media hype. Step back and take the view from outer space. See how beautiful our planet is. Come closer. Observe the might of our oceans. The comely seduction of our rolling hills and mountain tops. Look at your loved ones, feel them. The Love is the thing. Immortality is secondary.
And the weather? What of the hell the weather brings? What about horrible accidents of all kinds? It’s really all the same as it was for your parents, grandparents, great-grand parents and ancestors. They had the same lament. Life goes on. They too said “How can I possibly bring a child into this terrible world?”. The beat goes on …the drumbeat, your heartbeat, the beat of a thousand centuries. The Love’s the thing. Immortality is secondary.
It’s the Collective’s show AND each individual’s show. The best we can do is model and teach our children how to win and attract the best of experiences to themselves. They will come through to this experience, with or without you. What YOU bring to your role makes all the difference. Enjoy your life …with or without child and remember- The Love’s the thing. Immortality is secondary. Come play with us. Be brave.
Parents, did you have this parenting anxiety?
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